Satisfaction with sexual life is crucial for the overall satisfaction with life in both men and women. Numerous studies in this sphere have reinforced the idea that people who have an active, regular sexual life are happier, regardless of other variables, including career, children, level of income, appearance and so on. Sexually active couples more rarely complain of health problems; moreover, they are really healthier and their life expectancy is typically longer.
On the other hand, lack of a sex life or lack of satisfaction with your sex life has quite the opposite result. This is especially true for men. Researchers say that men who are not satisfied with their intimate life are more prone to alcoholism; they more frequently have confirmed health disorders, more often complain about their lives and, finally, live for a shorter length of time.
Types of Men’s Sexual Problems
Men can face different problems within the sphere of their intimate life. These issues can be associated with physiological changes in the organism (such as ageing, diseases) and psychological (lack of understanding between the man and his partner, fears, inhibitions). But regardless of the type, all disorders need to be corrected.
1. Erectile dysfunction. This is the most common issue of ageing men, and is often accompanied by prostatitis. Though today it is believed that it is impossible to cure ED completely, its symptoms can be effectively removed, so that a man can continue leading a normal sex life.
2. Premature ejaculation. As opposed to ED, PE is more typical for young men who can’t fully control their sexual arousal yet. Commonly, the problem disappears when a man starts living a regular sex life with a permanent partner. However, sometimes older men suffer from it too. In this case, special treatment may be required. Fortunately, today there are medications that help to prolong sexual intercourse and postpone ejaculation.
3. Lack of sex drive or low sex drive. In simple terms, this is a condition wherein a man doesn’t want sex. It can occur for a variety of reasons. For example, reduction of libido can be a side effect of taking certain medicines. It can also be caused by health problems, stress, depression or fatigue. The strategy of treatment will be determined by the initial cause of the problem.
Psychological Problems Associated with Sex Life
Sometimes, physically healthy men experience difficulties in their sex life, caused by psychological issues. Many of these can be treated; however, men often don’t follow through on pursuing the help of a specialist.
Here are some examples:
1. Incompatibility of partners. Unfortunately, it sometimes happens that two partners don’t match each other in terms of their tempers, sexual preferences or views on intimate life. Frequently, the initial problem is in the inability to have a frank and open conversation. Not all people can discuss sexual matters. A possible solution can be consulting with a specialist.
2. Psychological impotence. It occurs when a physically healthy man can’t get aroused or can’t reach erection because of psychological problems. These psychological problems can include:
- fear of sex because of an unsuccessful experience;
- anxiety associated with a fear of failure;
- too high expectations;
Also there can be other reasons for psychological impotence. Usually they require psychotherapy and sometimes even hypnosis.
When is it Time to Go to a Specialist
Sometimes sexual problems can be resolved by a mere open talk with a partner or (in cases of complete incompatibility) changing of the partner. However, if a couple cannot find a workable solution, and their sex life still doesn’t bring the desired contentment and satisfaction, it is time to consult a professional.
As a rule, all men’s physiological problems are treated by urologists or andrologists. In some cases you may need consultation with other specialists – am endocrinologist, cardiologist or a nutrition specialist. If the problem is caused by psychological issues, you may start your treatment with a visit of a sexologist. If necessary, you can also consult a psychotherapist.